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This list was compiled by blogger Jay White but I added my 2 cents. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
Here is the list of 10 things you should do to live an amazing life:
1. Follow Your Curiosity
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
What piques your curiosity? The pursuit of your curiosity is the secret to your success. Live curious.
2. Perseverance is Priceless
“It’s not that I’m so smart; it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”
Are you willing to persevere until you get to your intended destination? Do not be so quick to give up on the important things in your life. The struggle builds character.
3. Focus on the Present
“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
Learn to be present where you are; give your all to whatever you’re currently doing. Focused energy is power, and it’s the difference between success and failure. What is it that you can do and be doing right now to move one step closer to your dreams?
4. The Imagination is Powerful
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
“The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant.
5. Make Mistakes
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
Never be afraid of making a mistake. A mistake is not a failure. Mistakes can make you better, smarter and faster, if you utilize them properly. Discover the power of making mistakes. Winston Churchill said, “Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” So, go ahead!
6. Live in the Moment
“I never think of the future – it comes soon enough.”
The only way to properly address your future is to be as present as possible “in the present.” I love looking into the future but I’ve noticed that too much of that takes away from the present ability I have to experience life to the fullest.
7. Create Value
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.”
Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success. Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.
8. Don’t Expect Different Results
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
In order for your life to change, you must change.
9. Knowledge Comes From Experience
“Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”
What’s the lesson? Get experience! Go out there and do it. Just do not under estimate the power of reading, learning from other’s experiences and your thirst for knowledge.
10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better
“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
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Love. Learn. Leave your Legacy.
You Can Win Big: It’s Never Too Late, It’s Never Too Early
By Dr. Alexander Avila
The First Law: Turning Pain Into Power
I truly believe we need more individuals to come together for the greater good of humanity – we need to step out and transcend our self-imposed boundaries – we need to move more synergistically in the direction of progress – while we each, as individuals, leaves a legacy built on our individual passions and talents… the future of our country depends on it.
The dictionary definition of legacy is something that is handed down from the past or is also defined as a gift of property or money through a will. Now, I am sure we are not just interested in just talking about property or money so I see the value in clarifying a deeper meaning of legacy for all of us while sharing with you my passions on what legacy means to me.
Part of my personal mission is to “Leave a Legacy”. I see our legacy and what we are passionate about as one in the same realm – I see it as our God given purpose to align our gifts, talents, strengths, passions, aspirations and our creation power to render the best service to humanity. I believe this concept resonates with our life’s purpose and it transcends all cultures. There is an inner human need to feel unique and for each of us to know that we are here by no accident, that each of us has a purpose. I know this to be true – you are no accident, you are here for a very special purpose.
In some way, through what I do, I inspire those I come in contact with to follow their unique passions and to be authentic; those two attributes are key ingredients to finding out the legacy you want to leave behind. In my coaching sessions we go through a process of self-discovery where we explore values, identity, passions, interest and the needs of my clients to. I am confident that through a process like this one, we can shed light on which path to take in life. Ultimately, I believe legacy is the contribution we leave to humanity; it is what we leave behind because of our existence – it’s what we do, who we become & how who we are influences those around us.
As human beings, the greatest value we can bring to our country, the greatest legacy we can leave behind to society begins by being our authentic selves and by utilizing our unique talents, dreams and passions to bring value to others. It is my belief that the greater our self-awareness, the higher the chances we have in finding our passions and our life calling. Once we grab hold of our purpose… we have the potential to create a meaningful legacy.
Now, your contribution may not be money, it may be in the form of being the best parent possible, the lives you touched by being a good friend – it might be in the service you rendered that few took notice of… whatever it may be, I truly believe that we must pursue it and carry it out with everything we are!
You can begin moving in the direction of building your legacy by asking yourself: Where am I going with my life? Consciously open yourself to the possibility of the changes that you will make ahead to align more of what is important to you with where you are going with your life. I would like to challenge everyone to look and constantly analyze the direction your life is going in. If we are not obtaining the results we are after as individuals or as a society then maybe it’s not about trying to change our doing as much as our being – which starts with our thinking. So ask yourself: Who am I becoming? A great follow up question is; who do I want to become? Then see the gap between the two and create a plan to start making those changes.
You can leave a meaningful legacy; your life can be fulfilling. It’s time to take an inventory of yourself…
Written by Jorge Raziel Ortiz, President and Founder of Zealous Vision
I will not even ask you if you have procrastinated in the past because I know you have but I will ask you: Do you still hesitate or wait before making a decision or taking action on something that will potentially create progress in your life?
You see, procrastination is defined as the act of replacing high-priority actions with tasks of lower priority, or doing something from which one derives enjoyment, and thus putting off important tasks to a later time. That means that if you are procrastinating… you are selling your dreams and aspirations short.
Some time ago I started noticing that I would procrastinate on some tasks – like this blog you are reading; I actually had 80% of it done a long time ago but I put it off for some reason. Do you ever put of something important that you could do today for a later time? Why is that? Well, I had to look into it further because I know that this is a habit that affects the success of millions of people.
You see, we have enormous potential to accomplish amazing things in our lives and too often because of the lack of clarity or inner power – we hesitate, doubt or fear ourselves out of the life we could have. But before we settle with this negative habit that causes us disappointments, stress, unaccomplished goals and decreases our self-confidence let’s break it down and then identify what we can do to start regaining that inner power and remove procrastination out of our lives once and for all.
Freud’s “Pleasure Principle” states that we tend to avoid pain and seek pleasure in order to satisfy our biological and psychological needs. One theory is that we procrastinate because we are avoiding the pain of doing that which we are putting off. Others say that we procrastinate as a mechanism of coping with the anxiety of starting or completing a task. Yet others say that we will delay on doing a task not on the anxiety of the task but on the impulsiveness of our nature towards anxiety – meaning, anxiety will cause delays only if we are impulsive.
I would summarize procrastination as an unconsciously developed habit that stems from hesitancy around the unknown or the avoidance of the uncomfortable. Regardless of the causes, it is up to you to take full responsibility for your actions and to not let procrastination eat away at your potential.
At the end of the day, a practiced behavior becomes a habit and the habit, just by the nature of it, will reinforce itself thus making it difficult to change but don’t lose hope – we can change!
Here are 10 things that you can start doing today to break your habit of procrastination.
- Make a list of everything you have to do – Keep an updated list and look at it every day.
- Write a statement of intention – For example, “Today I promise myself I will clean out the garage”.
- Set realistic goals – Like, I will complete the first page of my paper due next month instead of I will finish my 10 page paper by tomorrow.
- Break it down into specific tasks – Clarity gives you more a road map that makes it easier to follow.
- Make your task meaningful – At the end of the day, you must care about doing what you set out to do, if not – you will find it hard to have the energy to finish the task.
- Promise yourself a reward – If I organize the room today I will treat myself to the movies tomorrow.
- Eliminate tasks you never plan to do. Be honest with yourself!
- Estimate the amount of time you think it will take you to complete a task. Then increase the amount by 50%. – Give yourself breathing room.
- Develop time-management skills – Try a planner, your computer, post-it notes, a list, and alarms with reminders but don’t give up – you will find a system that works for you.
- Lastly, ask yourself: does it depend on me to do or does the task have other contingencies? Sometimes it’s not just up to you to complete something – in those cases you must learn to do what you can and give up control.
Les Brown once said that “There is nothing as powerful as a made up mind. Do not give yourself another excuse to put off making up your mind. You know in your heart of hearts that once you do that you have got to act. You owe it to the world, your family, and most importantly, to yourself to live a life of no regrets.”
Go out and make up your mind to take one or a few of these steps I mentioned above to get things done. You deserve to live your dreams. You deserve to accomplish your goals. If you decide to take this to heart and start building momentum by taking focused action without procrastinating, you will achieve more than you ever thought possible.
Please let me know how procrastination has affected you or how you have overcome it.
Do not wait to achieve tomorrow what you could achieve today.
Written by Jorge Raziel, President of Zealous Vision
Do you want to be lucky? Not just win the lottery lucky, but lucky in everything important to you: your relationships,career and finances, and mental and physical health. Now you can be as lucky as you want to be based on recent findings in the psychology of luck.
In his ten-year scientific study on luck, psychologist Richard Wiseman from the University of Hertfordshire, examined the characteristics of exceptionally lucky and exceptionally unlucky people. In his research, Weisman found that unlucky people like Patricia, a twenty-year-old airline worker, always seem to attract accidents, relationships, and unfortunate circumstances. On the other hand, lucky people like Jessica, a forty-two-year-old forensic scientist, always seem to meet the right people–at chance meetings–and end up achieving their lifelong dreams, with seemingly little effort or strain.
How can you become an extraordinary lucky person? Wiseman points to four personality characteristics or habits you can develop to increase your good luck considerably:
*Create and Notice Chance Opportunities
Lucky people are always open to meeting new people and encountering new opportunities for learning and growth. For example, they are more likely to go to social events where they don’t knowpeople (even if they are the more reclusive Introvert type) because they’reaware they could meet someone helpful or learn something valuable at the tea-party they attend.
Wiseman did a clever study to test the Opportunities Recognition trait. He asked lucky and unlucky people to read a newspaper and tell him how many photographs were inside. On average, the people classified as unlucky in the study took two minutes to count the photographs, while those rated as high in luck took just a few seconds. Why? The second page of the newspaper had the message in large bold print, “Stop counting—thereare 43 photographs in the newspaper.” The lucky people immediately spotted the message and stopped counting,while the unlucky people were so concerned with looking for the photographs that they missed the obvious message.
*Be Relaxed and Flexible; Use Your Intuition
Unlucky people are often more tense and anxious than lucky people. Unlucky people try to analyze everything and worry about missing something and making a mistake. Lucky people are more relaxed, confident, and listen to theirintuition—their holistic sense of what is right and wrong for them. Unlucky people miss the right opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. An unlucky single person, for example, may go to parties obsessed with finding Mr. or Ms. Right, while the lucky person goes to make friends and have a good time. Often, the lucky person ends up meeting a soul mate—someone’s daughter, mother, sister, brother, co-worker, orfriend—through the new acquaintances made at the party.
*Change Things Up:/Do Things Differently
Many of us are creatures of habit. We take the same route to work every day; talk to the same people about the same things. Lucky people, on the other hand, believe that changing their daily routine—even a little bit—canhelp trigger positive and creative changes in other parts of their lives. In Wiseman’s study, for example, one highly person would change his route to work before he made an important decision.This small deviation got him out of his thinking rut and opened up some creative alternatives. Another lucky person wanted to change the type of people she met at social events, so she played a game with herself. She would think of a common color before he arrived at the party, and then would only talk to people who had that same color clothing: people in black, or those wearing red, for example. In this way, she opened himself up to meeting entirely different people, and she ended up meeting her current business partner.
Develop “It Could Have Been Worse”Thinking For Bad Circumstances
According to Wiseman, lucky people tend to use “counterfactual thinking” to soften the blow of bad circumstances which sometimes occur in their lives. Counterfactual thinking refers to thinking about what could have happened (for example, the worst possible outcome) instead of what actually did happen. In one interesting study, Wiseman asked lucky and unlucky people to imagine that they were in a bank when an armed robber entered and fired a shot that injured them in the arm. Weisman asked the participants if this event was lucky or unlucky. People in the study who were classified as unlucky said it was enormously unlucky that they just happened to be in the bank during the robbery. People classified as lucky viewed the situation as being far luckier: “At least Iwasn’t shot in the head and killed.” Lucky people in the study also had a more optimistic take on the situation than unlucky people: “Maybe I can sell the story to the newspaper.” Thus, the lucky people had a more positive, optimistic, and even grateful perception of what happened to them than the unlucky people who were often more negative, pessimistic, regretful.
As you can see from the research findings, luck can be made or created. You don’t have to be born lucky, or rely on some unknown force to be luckier. You can enhance your luck quotient just by making a few small changes in your everyday habits and approach to life. With greater luck, you will choose the right mate, friends, acquaintances,and business partners. You will make the right investments, and spend time on the best activities, goals, plans, and strategies for you. You will be happier, healthier, richer,and wiser if you just change a few elements of your personality. Before long you will create a closer and more intimate relationship with that charming and alluring companion who can grant the dreams of your heart:
Happy-go Lucky Luck.
Time and time again history has shown us the lives of remarkable human beings that attained monumental achievements and made their mark in the world. What may not be looked at all the time is that they too were human beings with character flaws, human beings that made mistakes, human beings that failed time and time again… but that ultimately left a legacy we can all admire.
So if they were just human beings like you and me; what eventually led them to much success, at least in some areas of their life? There are so many variables to that answer that I will have to include the complete answer in my book but for now let’s look at some of the characteristics of high-performers so we can become aware of what we can do on a day-to-day basis to improve our performance.
In my definition, a high performer is someone who is fulfilled, maintains balance and health and consistently practices effectiveness and efficiency in the realization of a worthy goal. I would not consider someone who is neglecting his/her family, health or some other aspect of his/her life for the attainment of a career goal to be a high performer. In essence, a high performer boils down to someone who exercises awareness and discipline consistently in a focused direction.
High performers are aware of their mission, values and their purpose which gives them their why, what and how of life. High achievers set goals that help them live their values, attain their mission and live on purpose; those are worthy goals. There are many ways of embarking on a journey of self-discovery that will aid us in understanding those areas of our soul. Yes, it could take us a whole life time to find ourselves but high achievers know that experiences will mold them so they don’t wait a lifetime to define themselves. They become aware of their values, define their mission and decide on their purpose. Once you have those clearly defined on paper, making decisions on what direction to go in life becomes much easier.
High achievers also practice daily disciplines. Now many people hear the word discipline and cringe because it may remind them of discomfort, pain, and/or hard-work and, who likes that? Research has proven that we first tend to consciously or unconsciously choose our habits but ultimately our habits will create the quality of our life. So if we think about it, to avoid a greater amount of pain and discomfort in our lives it is best to discipline ourselves to practice effective habits. In doing so, those habits will soon become automatic and we will begin to have better results in our lives with less effort.
Here are a few simple habits that if practiced daily can make all the difference in your life:
Consistently focus your energy/thoughts on what you want. Not on what you don’t want or on fears or doubts. Spend time every day to learn something new, something that will further your career or make you better. Always be optimistic; always be solution oriented. Just do it; have action orientation. Just get it done. Maintain and build positive associations. Who you spend your time with makes a BIG difference. Remind yourself of what you are grateful often. Gratitude opens your heart to happiness. Stay resilient. Keep on keeping on in the midst of struggle or failure.
So remember, if you embark on your own journey of self-discovery life will be more fulfilling; if you define your mission, values and purpose decisions will be much easier to make, especially in those forks of life. Practice the habits I mentioned – daily, they will create in you the characteristics of high-achievers and succeeding will come more naturally from there. Until next time, God bless.
Today I wanted to share a little on the power of focus. Now I am sure we have all heard time and time again to focus, that if we focus we will get more done but how many of us actually practice that day in and day out.
We tend to bring into our lives what we consistently focus on and what we focus on expands just by the nature of it. Wouldn’t it make sense to become aware of where our focus is going so that we can be more proactive as to what we are creating in our lives?
Understanding how high-achievers focus and applying that in our lives can make a huge positive impact in our career and in our level of fulfillment and satisfaction.
For a long time now, it has been obvious to all of us that there has been an ever growing accessibility of available knowledge and the advances in technology have made that possible. Also, in an effort to cut cost companies are now demanding higher productivity from its employees where they asking you to do more with less and less time and/or resources; I am sure we can all relate.
We also know that our world is experiencing an accelerated rate of change; if one thing is constant is change. We might even feel like there are never enough hours in the day. But the answer to achieve more – faster, control the rate of change in our lives and still be able to spend quality time with our loved ones is to utilize the power of focus.
Just as the sun’s rays when focused through a magnifying glass can create intense heat – when you focus your knowledge and skills on a few key activities you are able to accomplish much more than the average person can in far less time leaving you with more time to spend time with your loved ones.
The key to utilizing the power of focus is first to be crystal clear as to the outcome we are looking for and then to identify and put our attention on accomplish just that. We can maximize that power by finding the few activities that if we do consistently will generate us the biggest results, instead of just keeping busy like most people and having little to show for at the end of the day.
One thing we can be sure of, there are never enough hours in the day to do everything but there will always be enough time in the day to accomplish the most important tasks.
So spend a few minutes and clarify exactly what you want to accomplish. Then find the most important activities that you have to do to accomplish what you set out to do. Finally, block out the time and commit to doing them. I would recommend doing nothing else but the most important activities first thing in the morning. By doing so, you will begin to accomplish more and more in less time. You will be producing higher value results and ultimately will reach your goals faster.
Until next time,
Love much, learn often and leave a legacy!
I am sure that by now you have seen or heard about The Secret or the concept of the Law of Attraction. I have been re-studying the concepts recently because I will be teaching them in one of my projects in Los Angeles and I came across many misunderstandings so I wanted to write a summary of what I’ve learned thus far. As a matter of fact, I created the Law of Creation to explain the concepts of the Law of Attraction and I think it will help you understand this universal law. When I say creation, I am referring to the amazing ability we have as human beings to create, to achieve, to succeed.
Here is the Law of Creation, the secret to the Law of Attraction:
Focus + Attention + ∆Energy + Enthusiasm = Creation
Let me explain…
The Secret breaks it down in three steps: ask, belief, and receive. Here is the problem; many people do not understand the extent of these words. It gives of the impression that you are to just ask for what you want, believe it and somehow through magic it will appear in your life but it’s much more complex and logical than that. Let’s break down the formula:
In the formula for creation, FOCUS requires us to have clarity of what we want. In order to focus on something you need to know what you are focusing on. It’s like target practice, you want to know where the bulls eye is, right? The key is aligning our thoughts with what we want consistently; not letting failures or pains take our focus away from what we want.
Just in the same manner in the Law of Attraction, when you “ask” for what you want, you need to be specific; you want to be able to vividly imagine what you are asking for with as many details as possible. On a side note, be aware of your thoughts; are they focused in the positive or in the negative? On what you want or what you don’t want? When you know and focus on what you want there is a part of your brain that will become aware to situations, circumstances and people that will help you attain your goal. The key at that point is to not let any internal block stop you from utilizing those opportunities.
The second variable is ATTENTION. Attention requires us to dedicate our time to create what we want. Anything we want in our lives is going to require us to invest some time to make it happen. That might be in the form of learning a new skill, applying for something, making a phone call or something else but time will always be a factor. So prioritize the activities that will move your goals forward and do them first!
Then is ∆ENERGY, our energy transfer in the form of work. This is the key! This is where the rubber meets the road. We need to take focused action to create what we want. Mathematically, energy is a function of work and time. See the picture? Yes, work is not as easy as just accepting the status quo, being okay with mediocrity or doing nothing but if you want to create extraordinary results it will require extraordinary effort. Make sure you leave any fear, doubt or worry behind; if you don’t you will be self-sabotaging your progress.
The second part of the Secret talks about “believe” and here is the assumption main stream videos and books leave out: if you truly believe then your words, thoughts and actions will reflect what you believe. Meaning, if you believe it means that you will invest the time and energy in a focused manner to make your dreams a reality.
The last variable in our Law of Creation is missed by many but it is fundamental to make the law work and that is ENTHUSIASM. Zeal, passion, ardor and eagerness are all synonyms of enthusiasm. The word enthusiasm stems from the Greek word enthousiasmos which ultimately means “inspiration like that caused by a god.” Following your enthusiasm means that you’re following that higher calling or purpose that will always bring you joy and fulfillment in the long run.
It is so important to have enthusiasm because that is one of the strongest emotions we can have other than love. Strong positive emotions are essential to consistently maintaining focus, attention and energy. Imagine a feelings compass; if you feel enthusiasm and follow it, it would mean that you are going the right way; it would mean you are following your bliss, your calling, your joy, your happiness and that is when you know you are in the right track. If you felt a void, lack of fulfillment, unhappiness doing your work… maybe is time to change course, change careers.
Ralph Waldo Emerson understood the Law of Creation when he said: ”Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.”
So remember, the Law of Attraction is always in effect. Your current life is but a reflection of what you have created. If you want to start creating something different in the future ask yourself: What am I focusing on? What am I giving my time to? What am I working towards? Am I following my passion? If your answers align with what you want, you must be going the right way.
Obviously this is an extensive topic and I have just scratched the surface of it but feel free to leave your comments. I am always happy to expand on a particular statement or concept.
Until next time,
Love much, learn often and leave a legacy.